Why Trust Conquers All in a Relationship

There is a long list of things that people want in a romantic relationship: love, sex, support, loyalty, spiritual connection — the list goes on. However, people often do not realize that trust is something that can make or break a relationship, and that it must be at the top of the list for love to thrive.

The main reason that trust is significant is to assure peace of mind for both halves of the couple and faith in the one you love. Love is supposed to be comforting, not painful or anxiety-provoking. For instance, in a situation of suspected infidelity, one person cannot love the other if the first person does not trust that his or her significant other person has been or will be sexually and emotionally faithful.

 The suspicious one would be too wrapped up in throwing out accusations and worrying about what the other did outside of the relationship to ever look at his or her loved one in the same way again. Obviously, if infidelity has happened, trust is gone, and whether or not the disloyal lover was forgiven, the relationship will never be the same. Both partners must be able trust each other to be faithful, and in turn, each partner must be trustworthy. This is one instance in which trust is required, although it applies in other ways, as well.

Both partners must be able to trust each other to keep the details of their relationship and what goes on in it strictly between them. If one partner confides certain intimate details of the relationship to someone outside of the relationship — whether a friend, a coworker, or participants in an online forum, it can very well be considered a betrayal of trust. One must be able to trust one's significant other to keep the couple's love life confidential out of respect for the relationship.

When children enter the picture, trust becomes most important. One wants to be able to trust that one's significant other will take care of the couple's own children as well as treat children from previous relationships well. No one wants to have to worry about whether their partner will abuse or neglect children when left alone with them. You need someone on whom you can depend to take care of your children. Both partners must do their part to keep that trust. Having that trust in this situation is more important than anything.

Trust is most important because it has to exist before the relationship can go forward. If you are constantly panicking over what your significant other may be doing and who he or she may be doing it with, there is no way that you can love that person and care for him or her properly. You will feel anxiety and possibly resentment toward your partner, which will easily smother any romantic feelings. Therefore, trust must come first and foremost, before love, before kids, and before marriage. Always see if you can trust your partner before making any leaps.