Monday, April 3, 2017

Dating with Schizophrenia? 5 Tips for Finding Lasting Love

For many years, you have avoided dating altogether.  The memories of past relationship failures have been a painful roadblock to any future happiness you might envision.  Because of your schizophrenia, you may feel that you're destined to live alone.  If this scenario sounds familiar, you do have hope.  If you're ready to give dating a try again, consider the following 5 tips for finding lasting love.

Seek Social Skills Therapy

Many sufferers of schizophrenia feel vulnerable or even paranoid in certain social situations.  People may experience these paralyzing feelings when in a dating setting.  If you're tired of the isolation associated with your condition, you should think about seeking social skills therapy.  Ask your trusted physician about the availability of social skills training in your area.  In a non-threatening environment, you will be able to work on communicating and relating with others. 

Join a Support Group

If you're struggling with mental illness alone, join a support group.  Ask your physician about local support groups for schizophrenia or mental disorders in your area.  You can also search for reputable support groups online.  Social networking provides great opportunities to meet and get to know people all over the world who are dealing with schizophrenia.  In the process, you may become more comfortable sharing information about yourself with others.  This practice will help prepare you for dating in the future.  You might even meet that special someone in a support group.

Don't Try to Hide Your Illness

As you start going out on dates, don't try to hide your illness.  When getting to know someone, always be proactive and upfront about your disorder.  While you might successfully be able to hide your schizophrenia for a while, your loved one will eventually discover the truth.  Then, he or she will probably feel betrayed.  Your love interest might not be able to trust you in the future. 

Educate Your Date

When you confide in a date that you have schizophrenia, she or he will probably barrage you with many questions.  Take this opportunity to educate your new love interest about your condition.  Dispel any myths that your date may have about this disorder.  As much as possible, try to explain your condition in a serious, but lighthearted manner.  Talk with your love interest about your treatment regimen.  Tell him or her what types of behaviors to expect.  In sharing this information, your date will probably be a lot more comfortable with the situation.

Know When to Move On

Unfortunately, not everyone will be able to accept or cope with dating someone with schizophrenia.  After several months of dating, if your loved one is still hesitant about the relationship or afraid of you, you should probably move on.  You deserve to be with someone who will wholeheartedly accept you for who you are.  Remember, you won't ever meet the person you're meant to be with if you stay in a bad relationship.

Dating with schizophrenia can be challenging, emotional, and scary.  However, the happiness of finding lasting love is unmistakable.  If you're failing at the dating game, follow the aforementioned 5 tips.

Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Why Trust Conquers All in a Relationship

There is a long list of things that people want in a romantic relationship: love, sex, support, loyalty, spiritual connection — the list goes on. However, people often do not realize that trust is something that can make or break a relationship, and that it must be at the top of the list for love to thrive.

The main reason that trust is significant is to assure peace of mind for both halves of the couple and faith in the one you love. Love is supposed to be comforting, not painful or anxiety-provoking. For instance, in a situation of suspected infidelity, one person cannot love the other if the first person does not trust that his or her significant other person has been or will be sexually and emotionally faithful.

 The suspicious one would be too wrapped up in throwing out accusations and worrying about what the other did outside of the relationship to ever look at his or her loved one in the same way again. Obviously, if infidelity has happened, trust is gone, and whether or not the disloyal lover was forgiven, the relationship will never be the same. Both partners must be able trust each other to be faithful, and in turn, each partner must be trustworthy. This is one instance in which trust is required, although it applies in other ways, as well.

Both partners must be able to trust each other to keep the details of their relationship and what goes on in it strictly between them. If one partner confides certain intimate details of the relationship to someone outside of the relationship — whether a friend, a coworker, or participants in an online forum, it can very well be considered a betrayal of trust. One must be able to trust one's significant other to keep the couple's love life confidential out of respect for the relationship.

When children enter the picture, trust becomes most important. One wants to be able to trust that one's significant other will take care of the couple's own children as well as treat children from previous relationships well. No one wants to have to worry about whether their partner will abuse or neglect children when left alone with them. You need someone on whom you can depend to take care of your children. Both partners must do their part to keep that trust. Having that trust in this situation is more important than anything.

Trust is most important because it has to exist before the relationship can go forward. If you are constantly panicking over what your significant other may be doing and who he or she may be doing it with, there is no way that you can love that person and care for him or her properly. You will feel anxiety and possibly resentment toward your partner, which will easily smother any romantic feelings. Therefore, trust must come first and foremost, before love, before kids, and before marriage. Always see if you can trust your partner before making any leaps.